What is Fantasy Self Clutter & How Do You Get Rid Of It?
Do you know what “Fantasy Self” clutter is? Dawn from The Minimal Mom explains it all, shares examples from her life, and offers key questions to ask yourself to decide if your fantasy self is causing guilt, shame, and cluttering up your life.
What is the fantasy self?
Our fantasy self is who we wish we could or should be. These ideas and roles come from early programming from caregivers or peers that make us feel like we should appear more impressive or accomplished to others.
Dawn’s fantasy self examples
For example, Dawn’s mom encouraged her to play the French horn when she was a young girl. She purchased a French horn when she was older, never used it, and finally sold it.
As an adult, her peers encouraged to become a marathon runner, which she did for a time. She kept telling herself she “should get back into running,” until she realized she ran marathons out of peer pressure.
On the other hand, she’s always nurtured her love of creative DIY projects and it’s part of who she is deep down.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What are your fantasy self roles and where did they originate from? Where did the influence come from and is it truly part of yourself? Realizing a fantasy self belongs to someone else makes it easier to let go of the role and stuff that goes along with it.
- Do you feel joyful doing the activity or do you feel shame and guilt when you see all the stuff that goes along with that activity?
- If you let go of your fantasy self, would it leave more time and finances to focus on one hobby that fits who you really want to be now?
Fantasy self clutter
Dawn recommends decluttering your fantasy self in layers. You shouldn’t dive into decluttering everything at once. Let us know in the comments if you’ve identified your fantasy self and if you are ready to simplify your life!
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